Why We Need to Normalize Saying “No”.
For the longest time, I was a chronic people-pleaser. Every time someone asked me for a favor, to join a project, or even just to hang out, my immediate response was “yes.” I didn’t even pause to think about whether I actually had the time, energy, or desire to commit. It’s almost like I felt obligated to agree to everything, out of fear of disappointing someone or appearing unhelpful. But over time, constantly saying yes began to wear me down. I was overwhelmed, exhausted, and often found myself stretched so thin that I couldn’t give my best to anything I had agreed to. What I didn’t realize back then is that saying “no” isn’t selfish—it’s necessary. We can’t do it all, and we shouldn’t feel like we have to. It took a lot of trial and error for me to understand that by saying no, I was actually protecting my time and energy for the things that mattered most to me. I started recognizing the importance of setting boundaries, not just for my own well-being, but also to show up better in ...