Dennis Schulz

For most of my life, I struggled with setting boundaries. I was the go-to person for favors, the one who would drop everything to help others, even when it meant pushing my own needs aside. I thought saying “yes” to everyone made me a good friend, a good colleague, and a reliable person. But over time, I started feeling exhausted, overwhelmed, and even a bit resentful. I didn’t realize that constantly overextending myself was taking a toll on my well-being until I hit a breaking point. That’s when I decided it was time to learn the art of setting boundaries—and it changed everything. Setting boundaries didn’t come naturally. At first, saying “no” felt uncomfortable and guilt-ridden. I worried that people would see me as selfish or uncaring. But as I began to practice, I noticed a shift. Setting boundaries wasn’t about rejecting others; it was about respecting myself. I realized that by always putting others first, I had unintentionally neglected my own needs and priorities....

If you’re anything like me, saying “no” has never been easy. Whether it’s to a friend asking for a favor, a colleague offering extra work, or an invitation to an event I’m not really interested in, I always found myself saying “yes” more often than I should. For the longest time, I thought it was just being kind or helpful, but after a while, it became clear that I was stretching myself too thin, putting my own needs aside to avoid disappointing others. The turning point for me was when I started to feel burned out—juggling too many responsibilities and not enough time for myself. It wasn’t just physical exhaustion; it was mental and emotional, too. I realized that constantly saying yes wasn’t helping anyone in the long run, especially me. The more I took on, the less energy I had to give to the things that truly mattered to me. It was time to start saying “no” more often, and let me tell you, it was harder than I expected. The first few times I said no, I felt guilty. I worried that I...

For the longest time, I was a chronic people-pleaser. Every time someone asked me for a favor, to join a project, or even just to hang out, my immediate response was “yes.” I didn’t even pause to think about whether I actually had the time, energy, or desire to commit. It’s almost like I felt obligated to agree to everything, out of fear of disappointing someone or appearing unhelpful. But over time, constantly saying yes began to wear me down. I was overwhelmed, exhausted, and often found myself stretched so thin that I couldn’t give my best to anything I had agreed to. What I didn’t realize back then is that saying “no” isn’t selfish—it’s necessary. We can’t do it all, and we shouldn’t feel like we have to. It took a lot of trial and error for me to understand that by saying no, I was actually protecting my time and energy for the things that mattered most to me. I started recognizing the importance of setting boundaries, not just for my own well-being, but also to show up better in ...